|Even the best relationships experience tough times. At Oak Tree Counselling we have helped numerous couples learn how to communicate better, how to get their needs met, and how to deal with conflict better. We have helped couples heal old wounds and resentments, regain lost trust, reignite lost intimacy, and enjoy each other more again.
We provide a safe private setting, and an experienced relationship counsellor to listen to your issues, and give insight into how things can be improved, and coach you how to get there. We are not here to judge, and we won’t take sides; both partners are treated as equally important. However, be prepared to be challenged on how you currently do things. How much you will get out of the sessions will depend on how much you are willing to try something a little different. If you keep doing the same thing you are going to get the same results. For us, couples counselling is not just about listening and talking, it’s about providing you with practical tools and solutions to reach your relationship goals and get the results you want.
Why come to couples counselling?
Couples come to us for many different reasons, and at different stages of their relationship. Perhaps you are looking for pre-marriage counselling, or have just started to notice that your relationship is not quite what it was. Other couples find that they are arguing all the time, have many years of hurt and resentment built up, have mismatched libidos, or have little in common anymore. One of you may have had an affair, or you may be on the verge of separation where something must change in order for you to want to continue the relationship. The common thread is that every couple wants to have a happier, easier relationship.
Probably the most common issue we see is how couples deal with differences of opinion and with conflict. Couples either withdraw meaning nothing ever gets resolved, or disagreements escalate resulting in one or both parties feeling unheard, misunderstood, and unappreciated. Hot topics include; a partners’ difficult behaviour, allocation of workload, differing expectations and values, money, sex, children, and in-laws. These are all issues we are used to seeing and have a proven track record in improving.
Positive changes can sometimes been seen as early as the 3rd or 4th session, even with couples who have come to us saying that they are done with the relationship and ready to move on. The earlier in your relationship you come the better, but we have helped couples who have been together for 30+ years. As long as you are both willing to try, there is hope. With an experienced fresh pair of eyes, some insight, and a new way forward, loving feelings can reappear surprisingly quickly, even after years of absence.
What to expect?